Who Does What How My Partner And I Divvy Up Chores When I Work From Home And She Doesnt

Who Does What How My Partner And I Divvy Up Chores When I Work From Home And She Doesnt For most of human history, the who does what of housework welches pretty clearly spelled out, with gender determining each lebensgefhrtes specific role and contributions. Thankfully, thats (mostly) no longer the world we live in, but theres leise no rule book for helping partners figure out how to divvy up household chores the physical, mental,andemotional ones in a way thats fair and equitable.So, what does the division of household chores for herunterkommen couples look like, really? In FGBs Who Does What series, we asked couples to complete an exercise in order to share with us the amount and nature of housework they actually do, and how they decided to divvy it all up.--Name Patrick M.Location Greater Chicago areaRelationship status Long-term relationship with live-in partnerWhat type of home (e.g, condo, house) do you have? ApartmentDo you have any kids or pets? 1 dogHow long have you and y ur partner been together? 6.5 yearsHow long have you been living together? 4 years--What chores do you do daily, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Because I work from home and generally have more wiggle room in my morning schedule than my partner, I am almost always the one to take our dog Darth Vader (an extremely non-threatening shih tzu) out for his morning walk. I will usually do that first thing, and while Im out shell get a pot of coffee started. A lot of the dog care falls on me throughout the day, as well, but he was mine before I met my partner. And again, I have a little more schedule flexibility as I dont commute.Outside of taking care of the dog, I am also usually one to the handle laundry. We use a laundry service that picks up and drops off at your house, so I collect all the dirty clothes and coordinate with the service for both pick up and drop off. Since were still living in an apartment, there isnt as much home main tenance as we will likely have to deal with in the future with a house, but if something isnt working in the apartment, etc., I am usually the one to coordinate getting it fixed with our landlord. I am often the one taking out the garbage, too.Most of the chores Im responsible for were divided up this way because I have more time to take care of little details at home. With a commute that can sometimes take three hours total daily, my partner has less flexibility. But our work situations could wind up changing in the future, and I guess we would reassess chores then.What chores do you do weekly and/or monthly, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.I get our car serviced whenever it is necessary to. I also iron pretty regularly, as wrinkles drive me nuts. As far as household cleaning goes, we try to clean up our own messes and elend let things sit around. If someone sees that the kitchen countertop needs to be wiped down, they will take c are of it right then and there. We also have a maid who comes in every two weeks to give our apartment a little extra shine.How about your partner? What chores do they do daily, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them? She cooks a lot its something she really enjoys, so she wants to take ownership of it. We just finished doing Whole 30 together, and that was all her the meal prepping, grocery ordering, etc. But when were not trying out new diets, she is usually still the one in charge of what were eating. She is also usually the one to notice when were about to run out of things like toilet paper, soap, etc. at home. She will either pick them up from stores after work or place delivery orders through Amazon. That will usually be a little thing here or there a few times a week, and one big grocery run a week that she goes on or sometimes we both go if its a weekend day.What chores does your partner do weekly and/or monthly, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?M y partner manages all things having to do with household finances, etc. Im terrible with numbers, and shes an accountant it just made sense for her to take this on. In this area, she pays our bills, handles our taxes, and manages our investments and retirement savings. I would frankly be lost on all of this without her.Is the way you and your partner divide tasks similar to the household you grew up in? Why or why not?My mom stayed at home throughout my childhood and my dad traveled a lot for work, so I would say it is pretty different.Whats something you and your partner could improve on when divvying up and completing household tasks? Whats something you feel youre doing well? Im not koranvers what we could improve on. I think our current situation is working pretty well for us. For what were doing well, I think were good about sticking to a pretty consistent way of doing things. That leaves fewer questions about whos responsible for what and what expectations are.Lightning Round 1. Who makes the bed?We dont do that.2. When you go out to eat, who picks the restaurant and/or makes the reservation?We alternate, but she might choose slightly more often, though. Were bad at making reservations.3. Who makes doctors appointments? Dentist appointments?Both of us.4. Who picks up the dry cleaning?Neither of us.5. Who keeps track of friends and family members birthdays?Thats usually Facebook.6. Who pays bills? (Or if you divvy this up, who pays which bills?)She does.7. When something in the house/apartment is broken, who makes sure it gets fixed?I do.8. Who makes sure the tags on your cars are up-to-date?I do.9. Who vacuums?We both do.10. Who was the last partie to dust something?We dont really dust.11. Who was the last person to clean your toilet?I think she did.12. Who buys groceries?She does, sometimes we both do.13. Who brings in the mail?She does.14. Who irons?I do15. Who was the last person to clean out the fridge/pantry of expired items?Probably me.16. Youve be en invited to a wedding. Who RSVPs?She does.17. When planning a trip, who books the flights? The hotels?We both do.18. Who planned what you did last Friday night?I did.19. Who planned your last date night?She did.20. You need a gift for a friends housewarming party. Who buys it?That ones almost always her.--Interested in participating in FGBs Who Does What series? Email infofairygodboss.com with Who Does What in the subject line.